Sunday, January 11, 2009

LOVE Thoughts

May boyfriend/girlfriend/asawa ka na ba? [(Do you have a boyfriend/girlfriend?) or (Are you married?) or (Are you in a relationship?)]

If you answer “none/no.” The next question would probably be like this:

Nagkaboyfriend/girlfriend ka na ba? (But, have you ever been in a relationship?)

Every human being likes discussing topics or issues about love. I mean romantic love. Now, let me ask you a question: How would you react when you are in mid-twentys and someone asks you “May boyfriend/girlfriend/asawa ka na ba?” but have never been in a relationship? Then it would be followed by another question? And the third; the fourth; the fifth… Until the supposed to be short conversation would lead to further curiosity. Would you entertain a burgeoning long chat? Or sincerely answer the first question then feign an excuse so you would not have to undergo “Don’t Lie to Me” segment?

This is my first attempt to talk about matters of the heart. If for most people this is such an interesting subject matter during dull hours or while having lunch or while waiting for the movie to start, for me this is extremely difficult most specially if I am the on the hot seat. Why? Because I do not have much to say and it is causing me severe headache. Just kidding! Hehe!

There are times that I also ponder upon my reasons for being single. And until now I still haven’t discovered the best explanation. At my age, the idea of falling in love seriously has actually never entered my head. I also don’t have the initiative to find one. And I do not even see myself growing old with a significant other. But I wish to raise kids. That’s odd, don’t you think?

However, just like anyone else. I love to love (secretly).I feel that each time I watch romantic films or drama. Hehe! I think loving is the most exciting feeling. And loving is lovelier when you are also being loved. But isn’t depressing to hear stories about broken relationship due to infidelity? Worst, there are people who are still willing to love no matter how deep the wound is. I really could not understand why there are people who are capable of loving despite the pain and people who continue to hurt those who love them.

I have also heard many times on tv that incompatibility is a common ground why a romantic relationship lead to a break-up. On the other hand, there are also stories of perfectly compatible couples after being together for so long would someday make a decision to go their separate ways. Isn’t that intriguing? Hmmm...

When some friends come to me and share their love problem, I would instantly feel sad; sometimes angry towards the other person; sometimes helpless. The first thing I would do is to analyze the situation then give advice if I can. But every so often I feel that my words aren’t good enough to console or mend their broken heart. Then I would realize that the best thing I could do is to listen and just simply be a friend.

After saying all these disheartening realities about love, I am still not sure if I would want to have a lifetime partner or be someone who has mastered the art of loving secretly for I do not know what the future holds. Sometimes, love could be sorrowful but if ever I would be in a serious commitment I would rather think its something I would not regret. After all, love is not always associated to suffering or misery. Love also brings great joy. Right?

1 Speak:

Believe Achieve - Hugo and Roxanne said...

Hi Rej,

One thing I've learned through my personal growth and discovery is no matter how much someone longs for love or to be love, it's not possible until we have learned to love ourselves.

I call the ultimate "True" love, the ability to embrace self-love. How can one express love, if the root, the core (yourself) is not feeling it from deep within.

I'm definitely not saying you lack self-love and that's why finding love is not high on your priority list. It might just mean you haven't quite discovered the true meaning of it or yourself.

You're still very young, with many wonderful days ahead of you and many incredible opportunities to guide you through your self-discovery.

Thanks again for sharing your "Love Thoughts" and responding to our TAG comments. You must have someone special in your life? Maybe a friend, family member, or even a pet. Think of someone to give appreciation to and dedicate a post to them. It's a great gratitude exercise to realize our blessings.

Think about it and let us know. :-)
Talk to you soon.

Many Blessings....
Roxanne ~ Believe Achieve

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